On Losing Your Mojo


It's been 25 days since I last wrote anything new on here, but not for want of trying. Don't get me wrong, I've had plenty of ideas and plenty to say - snippets of which have managed to make their way onto Twitter. I've told myself several times throughout those 25 days, today's the day I sit down and bloody write something, but it's failed to happen because I simply haven't felt like it. I've either felt too down, too tired, too apathetic, too frustrated and even too energetic or too happy to make myself concentrate on creating something remotely intellectual. Most of it boils down to the simple fact that I'm simply not getting the same thrill from my blog these days as I did when I first started almost a year ago.

Solo Dining: Why I Enjoy A Table For One

Once upon a time I'd only ever sit in to dine at certain places with friends. If I were ever by myself, I'd either take the to-go option or, if the menu didn't cater for that, choose somewhere different entirely or simply go without. I subscribed to the usual stigmas attached to dining by yourself; that it looks sad and lonely, or as a woman, looks like you've been stood up - basically that having a meal on your own was something people both noticed with a raised eyebrow and pitied momentarily with hushed whispers before returning to their previous conversations. Now that I've gotten over that line of thinking and actually done it regularly, the reality is much different - and pleasantly surprising.

The Great Big Catch-Up + Giveaway!

Hello! It's been a while huh? There seems to be an unfortunate pattern emerging where I disappear from my own blog for weeks at a time, except in this instance there's actually a (mostly) good reason for it! Luckily I have plenty of things to fill you guys in on AND my very first giveaway all in one post - I'd advise you grab a cuppa/snack/comfy seat as this could be quite a chunky read.

The biggest contributing factor for my lack of posting is a career change - in case you're not following on Twitter or Instagram where the news has already broken, I'm now apprenticing again part-time in a tattoo studio in town on top of my current day-job, at which I've cut down my hours to follow this path instead. I've been going to this studio for piercings and tattoos since I was 16 (that's 9 years!) and I've been incredibly lucky to have been welcomed into such a tight-knit family to be taught by someone with over 35 years of experience. Things are going spectacularly and I'm looking forward to summer when I can really sink my teeth into it.

Blogging Advice: What Won't Necessarily Make You Better

We've all read our fair share of opinions, tips and tricks as to what helps to make one blog stand out from another - I've definitely given my own thoughts on the matter through Twitter - and there's no denying that these kinds of posts certainly help us out greatly when we're new to the blogging scene, when trying out a new social media platform or when we're stuck in a bit of a rut. A helping hand is undoubtedly great and all and my own blog certainly wouldn't have gained the momentum it has for such a new blog, but I can't help but feel that some of the most popular tips, while useful for boosting numbers, don't always offer the same boost to quality. In fact, some can even have an adverse effect both on the blog and the blogger, so here's my take on how those won't make you better than anyone else.

The Ugly Side of Body Positivity

You cannot be active on any social media nowadays without coming across some aspect of the body positivity movement - that every body type, shape, size and ability is worthy of love, acceptance and appreciation, and that nobody should ever be shamed for theirs. At face value it's an uplifting and encouraging sentiment, that it doesn't matter how you appear to others so long as you yourself are happy in your own skin, and that there are people out there who will defend this ideal strongly. Some, perhaps, a little too strongly, and in my eyes this is slowly becoming problematic.

Don't get me wrong, I am absolutely all for empowering one another and offering support in times of negative comments and bullying regarding one's appearance. I will never ask that people stop standing up for each other when they need it. We're quite right to speak out whenever someone is criticised for being "too skinny and unhealthy looking", that they'd "look much better if they lost some weight", or that they're "too pale" or "too dark" for someone's liking (I know, right? An actual comment I've seen countless times!). The wording of these statements is undeniably hurtful and of course will naturally attract backlash, but the thought process behind them did get me thinking one day: as much as they're completely lacking in tact and respect, they're still representative of something that everybody has - preference.